Well, to start this discussion off – I fell out of the bed last night. Not a mere graceful slide off the mattress but a full monty turn and a half mid-air scramble with a plopping finish where my less than graceful dismount did not stick. Ow! Now to tell you why….

Reading and writing romance can be a dangerous thing. So, hold on to your cowboy hats and let me expound upon this little known threat. You ladies know I write hot romance, I do my dead level best to write sex so Wild and Wicked that it will melt your ereader and singe your fingers when you try to turn the page. Some of my sex scenes – no lie – are 12 pages single-spaced. I try to write explicitly tender and hot and you will get a BLOW by blow description, if you know what I mean. There are hazards in writing this stuff, number one being that sometimes those lascivious thoughts work their way into my mind and I just can’t let them go. Even in my dreams! And when that happens, sometimes I get all wired up and having these hot images bombard my mind and I roll over to nail that hot hunk and promptly fall out of bed – – – because he wasn’t there to start with! Haha!

Apart from creating hot dreams that will cause you to toss and turn in your bed, there are those who think that reading romance is DANGEROUS. Now, let me share this crock of…buttermilk…with you.

Lately I have seen several articles pop up about the hazards of reading romance and they strike me as being far less newsworthy and truthful than articles written on the capture of Bigfoot or being abducted by aliens. Who do these people think they are? They have come up with several reasons why reading romance can be bad for you. Any kind of romance – although, they consider erotic romance to be the most dangerous. Ha! What?  Now, I’m going to give you their 3 reasons why women should refrain from indulging in a good old-fashioned love story. And here I thought the real dangers in this world were proverty or terrorism or perhaps the threat of nuclear war. Oh, no. Romance is bad for you!!

1) The first Hazard of reading romance, especially erotic romance is that it might TURN YOU ON! Get this, it might TURN YOU ON! Ha! Is that a bad thing? I sorta enjoy being turned on and I will tell you right out that I have received more than a few thank-you notes in my time from wives and/or husbands who told me that my sex scenes woke their marriage up. So if you’re married or single, I can’t see how getting TURNED ON is a bad thing. Can you?

2) Get this now…. Romance novels can create dissatisfaction in your life and in your marriage. What? They say that reading a romance where the man loves the woman, courts her, kisses her, proposes to her, they have fantastic sex CREATES DISSATISFACTION in their life and in their marriage.  Think about it. That could only be possible if they were dissatisfied already or if they could possibly see ways where their situation could be improved. If we followed this logic, everything would be a threat. You couldn’t look at a magazine because the pictures of homes and furniture in there might upset you because you liked it better than your own. Or the food advertised might make you jealous because you’re eating spaghetti and the picture is of a nice juicy steak. Well, those things are meant to make you want to improve your situation. Maybe you do need a new coat of paint or a different slipcover and maybe you need to try and learn a new recipe. Romance novels aren’t designed to make you want a new mate or husband, but it sure wouldn’t hurt if it made you appreciate them more. Go on date night. Have sex more often. Hold hands in front of the TV – sheesh!

Now for point 3) reading romance can UNDERMINE YOUR MARRIAGE. Oh boy. We women are so fragile, we’re so easily manipulated, we can’t tell the truth from FICTION! Do we all wish our husbands looked like Jimmy Thomas or Jason Momoa or Channing Tatum – – well, yeah – but we’re also smart enough to appreciate who we fell in love with and why. Does our reading romance and escaping into another world mean that we don’t appreciate the world we live in? Surely not. An article I read said that books are more dangerous than TV because we tend to put ourselves into the story line. This sounds a lot like a political agenda that will next be burning the books and the kindles and telling us what we can and can’t do. Reading is always good for you. I have learned more from reading romance novels than anything else and I’m not talking about sexual positions. I have learned about people and places and traditions and history. In my novels I try to give my readers a glimpse into other worlds and other places. And yes, I give them good sex but I will argue with anyone with the fact that I DO NOT WRITE PORN. The sex I write is beautiful. It’s uplifting. It’s tender. The people are in love and they are committed and they are FAITHFUL. DAMMIT! I write sex and love the way it should be. And yet, I understand that what I’m writing is fantasy. But I think most women are smart enough to know that. We, as a gender, are NOT STUPID. Can you tell this upset me? This is just another dictatorial attempt to keep women under control and make us feel bad for thinking and feeling and acting in our own interests. The men in my life are not so easily threatened as the authors of those articles. And I, for one, feel sorry for their wives and/or husbands because they must be highly unhappy and insecure. Ha!

I have to tell you this, when I got to the bottom of the article, this person had written a sex manual – A Month to Better Sex or something like that. And I laughed. After all of the downing of books that include sex in them, this moron had the audacity to try and sell me a book about sex. I wanted so badly to write them this note:

Dear Blogger – I just read your article on the dangers of reading romance. You seem a little afraid of sex to me. Yet, you have written a sex manual. I hope that works out for you. I do see that you say you can teach people how to have better sex after a month. That’s a long time. Let me offer you a free download of a Sable Hunter novel and I can guarandamntee you that you’ll have better sex after one night if you get TURNED ON by what I’ve written.

Okay, yea, I didn’t send that, but I wanted to.

I’m going to stop ranting now. Next time I’ll give you promo, but this time I just wanted to get something off my chest. Hope you don’t mind. And if you agree with me – say so!! If you don’t, well, I’m not sure why you’re reading WILD AND WICKED.

Love, Sable





About sablehunter

Sable Hunter writes erotic romance. She writes what she likes to read and enjoys putting her fantasies on paper. Her stories are emotional reads where the heroine is faced with challenges, like one of her favorite songs – she’s holding out for a hero – and boy, can she deliver a hero. Her aim is to write a story that will make you laugh, cry and sweat. If she can wring those emotions out of a reader, then she has done her job. She grew up in south Louisiana along the mysterious bayous where the Spanish moss hangs thickly over the dark waters. The culture of Louisiana has shaped her outlook on life and made its way into her novels where the supernatural is entirely normal. Presently, Sable lives in Texas and spends most of her time in wild and wonderful Austin. She is passionate about animals and has been known to charm creatures from a one ton bull to a family of racoons. For fun, Sable has been known to haunt cemeteries and battlefields armed with night-vision cameras and digital recorders hunting proof that love survives beyond the grave.She writes for Secret Cravings Publishing as well as publishes much of her own work. Join her in her world of magic, alpha heroes, sexy cowboys and hot, steamy, to-die-for sex. Step into the shoes of her heroines and escape to places where dreams can come true and orgasms only come in multiples.
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  1. doveknoll says:

    Hooyah!!!!! You go girl. Give these crazies hell. I don’t get what is wrong with hot romantic stories and yes I’ve definitely been turned on by some of the scenes. All I have to say about that is…Thank you . Lol. Especially the hot dreams. Lol

  2. Thank you Sable. Your books are so good and just so you know the idea’s I got from reading your books have spiced up our love life…..You throw out ideas and the rest of us just thank you for your very good ideas…..if you let the ideas just invade your life you will find that they do some good….if we listen to these different articles we will find that we see a bunch of goose stepping morons in the streets and they will be burning books on that same street….( if you people don’t know what I am talking about,watch…Harrison Ford in Indiana Jones(the first one). I read anything and I can promise you Romance DOES NOT MESS WITH MY LOVE LIFE!!!! Thank you Sable for speaking out!!!

  3. Karen Roma says:

    OMG…..I LOVE YOU SABLE!! And I can definitely vouch for the fact that reading romance and especially erotic romance will spice up your sex life!!

    When my DH realised that the content of my books made me HOT, and that it then resulted in my eagerness to experiment a little more in the bedroom, he was actively encouraging me to read.

    Romance writers should be paid double, as they are not only authors, but in some instances, sex councillors too!! I can honestly say, that even though I am a married woman with grown children, it was only after I stared reading erotic romance that I found my voice and the courage to ask for what I wanted. So if reading some really HOT romance also adds spice to your love life, then I’m all for it!!

  4. Therese lopez says:

    Very well said!! I definitely know the difference between what I read in books and what’s happening out there. I read romances to live vicariously through the characters and to just enjoy the story. I love all of Sable Hunters books they are sexy and tender and the characters truly love each other so much, that’s why I love her books.

  5. Kathy Lewis says:

    Yay for you! Thank you for expressing yourself. I feel the same way when I see articles calling romantic and hot sexy books as porn. They need to take their heads out of their a$$ss and realize what women want and know we are smart enough to know the difference.

  6. cherylanne57 says:

    Harrah thank you for expressing something we all know, but no one can do it better.😄

  7. Jan Vander Leest says:

    If romance doesn’t turn you on then I feel very sorry for you. Very well said!!!

  8. Jodi Knecht says:


  9. You Go Gal. You should have socked it to ’em big time. But, I must agree that since I’ve rediscovered romance books it did remind me what was as I missing from my marriage. We may still be living in the same house together, but my rings are off.

  10. Donna Bayar Repsher says:

    Right on, Sable!

    I heard this same nonsense spewing from mouths of many of men who had to pass through the 12 bookcases filled with romance novels at my bookstore (our busiest section) in order to get to our action/adventure, mystery and western sections. I’ll tell you exactly what I told them, which is, “For decades, I’ve heard men complain that they don’t know what women want. If you really want to know what women want, what turns them on, and what turns them off, read a couple of romance novels, preferably the ones your lady reads, and you’ll find out exactly what they want, in bed and out of bed.”

    And then I added the statistic that 50% of all books sold in the U.S. are romance novels, and 80% of the women who buy them are professional women.

    When a new bookstore opened about 20 miles south of us, they interviewed the new bookseller in the local newspaper. She was quoted as saying, “We only sell quality books here. You won’t find any dime-store romances on our shelves.” So, I sent a letter to the editor about the article, quoting that same statistic mentioned above, and telling the new owner that it wasn’t her job to tell her clientele what to read, and that after reading her snooty comment, as a romance reader myself, I’d never set foot in her store. I never have, but that letter also garnered a lovely letter from Barbara Hazard, who lives in our area, telling me how much she appreciated my defense of romance novels, and offering to do a signing at our store.

    Keep fighting the good fight! I love your books!

  11. Diane V says:

    Yay Sable! That article sounds like a load of propaganda claptrap, AKA bullish*t! You keep writing and we’ll keep reading.

  12. Clare O'Beara says:

    Well said Sable! Romance novels have come a long way and modern stories tend to feature heroines who are surgeons, business owners, firefighters and FBI agents. This, coupled with pointing out the difference between a good partner and a potentially abusive one, sounds empowering to me. Maybe the blogger is afraid of empowered women.

  13. Shirley Long says:

    God Almighty!! What is this world coming to??? Do we actually need someone telling us what we should and should not read? Hell no we don’t.

    Romance books are like TV, they are an escape from the problems, boredom, and sameness of our every day lives. Do we neglect our families to read? No (well not often anyway). Do we call off work to stay home and read? I don’t think so. Do we expect our significant others to be like the men in our books? Another big no. While it might be nice, it isn’t our reality on a day to day basis. And that’s why we love romance, especially erotic romance.

    We all have hectic lives and families and responsibilities to continually deal with. But when we open a good erotic romance, for that short period of time, we enjoy the fantasy of our characters and their lives. We laugh, we cry, we relate and we ENJOY living vicariously thru the chapters of the book. Once we put the book away, it’s back to the real world and all that awaits us there. We don’t try to live our lives thru the characters, we only enjoy reading their trip to HEA. We are women, not idiots. We love the romance and the steamier, the better. So what?? We are entitled to a little fantasy here and there. Doesn’t make us bad wives or mothers or sisters or friends. Just makes us happy, well adjusted, normal women.

    Obviously this blogger has NEVER read a good Sable Hunter book. He/she should check out the McCoy boys and then try to make me believe she didn’t enjoy it.

  14. Ana Alvarez says:

    Excellent rant!!!

    And of course I agree with you!!!

    And I will say I also agree with you that our horizons and minds are opened to other parts of world. I have learned about horses and ranches – obviously I am a city girl – and other foods and enjoyed your stories tremendously:):).

    YES!!! They do turn me on and I am SO glad that aspect of my life is yeah!!!!

    And I LOVE your happy endings:):)

    THANK YOU!!!! I am so happy you are so creative and able to get it on paper and it reads as well as you are trying to tell the story.

    Best wishes in all your endeavors.

    Sent from my iPad

  15. windybon says:

    Love your romances, Sable. I definitely know the difference between real life and fictional romances. You can bet that those who do have problems with romances have other problems in their lives.

  16. Cheryl Lemon says:

    Sable – you go girl. I love reading romance novels. This is where I escape from real life, just like I do when I go see movies. The love scenes are they only time I have sex. I have no partner even though I’m still looking. So keep writing them.

  17. Eileen says:

    That’s the way to tell them! I’ve been married for 36 years. My husband is very appreciative of my reading habits and says that if he had known that buying me 50 Shades and my subsequent reading materials would benefit him so much, he could have saved a lot in jewelry over the years! LOL. Keep up the good writing!!!

  18. Stephanie O. says:

    Hi Sable,
    I just have to say I think you probably should have sent that note to that misguided blogger. I totally agree with you on all your points, but especially that one about women being smart enough to tell fiction from real life!! Duh!! And really, I would think anything that gets me thinking more about bedroom activities is a good thing that will benefit my hubby. That blogger doesn’t know what s/he’s talking about!

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