Well, to start this discussion off – I fell out of the bed last night. Not a mere graceful slide off the mattress but a full monty turn and a half mid-air scramble with a plopping finish where my less than graceful dismount did not stick. Ow! Now to tell you why….
Reading and writing romance can be a dangerous thing. So, hold on to your cowboy hats and let me expound upon this little known threat. You ladies know I write hot romance, I do my dead level best to write sex so Wild and Wicked that it will melt your ereader and singe your fingers when you try to turn the page. Some of my sex scenes – no lie – are 12 pages single-spaced. I try to write explicitly tender and hot and you will get a BLOW by blow description, if you know what I mean. There are hazards in writing this stuff, number one being that sometimes those lascivious thoughts work their way into my mind and I just can’t let them go. Even in my dreams! And when that happens, sometimes I get all wired up and having these hot images bombard my mind and I roll over to nail that hot hunk and promptly fall out of bed – – – because he wasn’t there to start with! Haha!
Apart from creating hot dreams that will cause you to toss and turn in your bed, there are those who think that reading romance is DANGEROUS. Now, let me share this crock of…buttermilk…with you.
Lately I have seen several articles pop up about the hazards of reading romance and they strike me as being far less newsworthy and truthful than articles written on the capture of Bigfoot or being abducted by aliens. Who do these people think they are? They have come up with several reasons why reading romance can be bad for you. Any kind of romance – although, they consider erotic romance to be the most dangerous. Ha! What? Now, I’m going to give you their 3 reasons why women should refrain from indulging in a good old-fashioned love story. And here I thought the real dangers in this world were proverty or terrorism or perhaps the threat of nuclear war. Oh, no. Romance is bad for you!!
1) The first Hazard of reading romance, especially erotic romance is that it might TURN YOU ON! Get this, it might TURN YOU ON! Ha! Is that a bad thing? I sorta enjoy being turned on and I will tell you right out that I have received more than a few thank-you notes in my time from wives and/or husbands who told me that my sex scenes woke their marriage up. So if you’re married or single, I can’t see how getting TURNED ON is a bad thing. Can you?
2) Get this now…. Romance novels can create dissatisfaction in your life and in your marriage. What? They say that reading a romance where the man loves the woman, courts her, kisses her, proposes to her, they have fantastic sex CREATES DISSATISFACTION in their life and in their marriage. Think about it. That could only be possible if they were dissatisfied already or if they could possibly see ways where their situation could be improved. If we followed this logic, everything would be a threat. You couldn’t look at a magazine because the pictures of homes and furniture in there might upset you because you liked it better than your own. Or the food advertised might make you jealous because you’re eating spaghetti and the picture is of a nice juicy steak. Well, those things are meant to make you want to improve your situation. Maybe you do need a new coat of paint or a different slipcover and maybe you need to try and learn a new recipe. Romance novels aren’t designed to make you want a new mate or husband, but it sure wouldn’t hurt if it made you appreciate them more. Go on date night. Have sex more often. Hold hands in front of the TV – sheesh!
Now for point 3) reading romance can UNDERMINE YOUR MARRIAGE. Oh boy. We women are so fragile, we’re so easily manipulated, we can’t tell the truth from FICTION! Do we all wish our husbands looked like Jimmy Thomas or Jason Momoa or Channing Tatum – – well, yeah – but we’re also smart enough to appreciate who we fell in love with and why. Does our reading romance and escaping into another world mean that we don’t appreciate the world we live in? Surely not. An article I read said that books are more dangerous than TV because we tend to put ourselves into the story line. This sounds a lot like a political agenda that will next be burning the books and the kindles and telling us what we can and can’t do. Reading is always good for you. I have learned more from reading romance novels than anything else and I’m not talking about sexual positions. I have learned about people and places and traditions and history. In my novels I try to give my readers a glimpse into other worlds and other places. And yes, I give them good sex but I will argue with anyone with the fact that I DO NOT WRITE PORN. The sex I write is beautiful. It’s uplifting. It’s tender. The people are in love and they are committed and they are FAITHFUL. DAMMIT! I write sex and love the way it should be. And yet, I understand that what I’m writing is fantasy. But I think most women are smart enough to know that. We, as a gender, are NOT STUPID. Can you tell this upset me? This is just another dictatorial attempt to keep women under control and make us feel bad for thinking and feeling and acting in our own interests. The men in my life are not so easily threatened as the authors of those articles. And I, for one, feel sorry for their wives and/or husbands because they must be highly unhappy and insecure. Ha!
I have to tell you this, when I got to the bottom of the article, this person had written a sex manual – A Month to Better Sex or something like that. And I laughed. After all of the downing of books that include sex in them, this moron had the audacity to try and sell me a book about sex. I wanted so badly to write them this note:
Dear Blogger – I just read your article on the dangers of reading romance. You seem a little afraid of sex to me. Yet, you have written a sex manual. I hope that works out for you. I do see that you say you can teach people how to have better sex after a month. That’s a long time. Let me offer you a free download of a Sable Hunter novel and I can guarandamntee you that you’ll have better sex after one night if you get TURNED ON by what I’ve written.
Okay, yea, I didn’t send that, but I wanted to.
I’m going to stop ranting now. Next time I’ll give you promo, but this time I just wanted to get something off my chest. Hope you don’t mind. And if you agree with me – say so!! If you don’t, well, I’m not sure why you’re reading WILD AND WICKED.