Family dynamics

Family drama. We’ve all seen it. Lived it, probably. I have. But dang, if it isn’t an interesting place to visit when you’re writing a series. I’ve always been fascinated by the fodder that holds together or splits apart characters–not only the main characters, but beyond the immediate family as well.

Remember that great seventies show, Dallas? Heck, take a look at Supernatural, Charmed, Modern Family…it’s like going to a candy store for me to watch how these various family personalities weave through life, how they handle the daily tensions, or the obstacles created by choices.



It’s one of the things I’ve loved about working with the Kinnsion brothers– (brothers by choice, not necessarily by birth) Brought together by adversity, they’re stubborn, hard-working, ready to step into harms way for each other…but as in real life, (and in my twisted imagination) challenges come along that will serve to strengthen or blow apart that bond they’ve forged.

Such fun, huh? (Yeah, when its fiction! 🙂

My third and final book in the Kinnsion series (RENEGADE HEART) has Amanda cover no logo-2actually  been delayed due to recent health issues in my family–but it’s also given me a moment to observe (firsthand) the complicated family dynamics–brought about by life’s obstacles– that we’ve all faced now and again.

Though not always easy, the experience has strengthened my understanding, my resilience, my gratitude, and in some ways served as inspiration in writing this third book. (speaking of inspiration…this is a sneak peek at fodder for my back cover of Renegade Heart! Thank you HeatherLynn Portraits!)

Without a doubt, a huge part of my inspiration through recent challenges has been the encouragement , prayers and thoughts of my readers. It’s been 20150206_171533amazing and I’m forever grateful.

With Valentines Day just around the corner, I have to say that its not a day set aside just for lovers–but for reminding those around us that they are important, they matter, and that our lives , our hearts are a little fuller because of them.

So I want to show some love & appreciation by giving away this little fella (a hint of what’s to come in the next book) to one lucky person leaving a comment.

Just for fun–Tell me what TV show best describes YOUR family dynamics right now! 🙂

Meantime, thank you for being patient, prayerful and continuing to support so many wonderful storytellers! I’ll pick a winner next week and contact you directly, then announce next month! Good luck & God bless!

Kindness matters,


About Amanda McIntyre

Amanda McIntyre’s storytelling is a natural offshoot of her artistic creativity. A visual writer, living in the rich tapestry of the American heartland, her passion is telling character-driven stories with a penchant (okay, some call it a wicked obsession) for placing ordinary people in extraordinary situations to see how they overcome the obstacles to their HEA. A bestselling author, her work is published internationally in Print, E-book, and Audio. She writes steamy contemporary and sizzling historical romance and truly believes, no matter what, love will always find a way. Learn more and get connected at
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31 Responses to Family dynamics

  1. Clare O'Beara says:

    I really don’t know because I don’t have time to watch much TV, and never any soap operas, dramas or series anymore. I turn on for the news and follow documentaries and a few intelligent and funny panel shows. Maybe Sky News because we discuss the news in the outside world a lot.

  2. Oh yes, forgot about soap operas! Drama on overdrive! I can’t watch most of them anymore without thinking–jeez, these people never really learn anything, do they? I’m very selective in my television viewing, simply as I don’t find much of it worthy of my time. Eek, that sounds snobbish, maybe, but it’s true! I do like NCIS and I’m an admitted Supernatural fan girl 🙂 Actually now that I think about it, I could probably write my own family TV show ! Hum…
    Thanks for stopping by, Clare!

  3. Karen Hrdlicka says:

    My family even though small is a lot like Everybody Loves Raymond. My mother in law is as overbearing (and then some) My father in law is just as clueless and my husband’s sibling is just as odd.

    • Life imitates art. Isn’t that funny how that works sometimes? I wonder…are there any tv shows that we’d WISH our family dynamics were similar? I think most of us are “happy” to a degree with our families (ok, there is ALWAYS tweaking to be done, and naturally, its never ME:) but you’ve got to wonder, did these screenwriters experience this kind of family stuff in their childhoods? or are they common to all of us? Thanks for your input, Karen:)

  4. Penney Wilfort says:

    With a daughter in collage studing for her Math degree and a crazy husband I would have to say the Big Bang Theory, and our other daughter in high schoolit can be crazy here at least the home is full of laughter and jokes our oldest pulls on the rest of us.

    • What a fun family it sounds like you have , Penny! My kids IQs are so over the top of my head its not even funny. Fortunately, I excel in common sense and empathy. 🙂 All I can say , is ENJOY THE CRAZY!! It gets awfully quiet in this once crazy house and you realize how fast it goes by! (though the memories(great and not-so-much) of raising 4 kids over 27 years in the same house do remain LOL) Love that you stopped in to share, thanks!

  5. Jodi Knecht says:

    Can’t wait to read about the Kennsion Brothers!

    • Thank you, Jodi, and I cannot wait to share Dalton’s story with you. Though they are all stand-alone books, if you haven’t read Rugged hearts or Rustler’s Heart, the story line continues, but story details enhance each book and builds on the family’s dynamics! Thank you for stopping by!

  6. laineslite says:

    I come from a big family and unfortunately we lost 2 of them this year, unrelated issues since one was very sick and the younger niece never quite reached 29, a week shy. We are scattered around and the neat part is the extended family of in-laws. We keep them even if divorced, because they are family still and connected. Besides we blended some of the family members too and keep everyone on both sides together. So a big, crazy mix of biological, in laws, extended and family friends, so a huge hodgepodge makes it merrier.

    • Wow, laineslite. First, I’m sorry for your loss. It’s never easy, but most difficult when its a young person.
      Sounds like you have enough fodder to write your own show. That is awesome that you’ve been able to stay connected through it all. Such compassion, forgiveness and resilience is clearly part of your foundation. Thank you so much for sharing your story! 🙂

  7. therese lopez says:

    My family and I don’t watch sit coms so I can’t really compare our family to any of those shows. We watch shows on the Animal Planet, National Geographic and channels like that. My kids love sports and would rather watch that then regular TV. I read most of the time so i’m sorry. Your books sound fantastic, I would love to read them, your a new author to me and I will definitely be putting you on my wish list!!😊😊😊😊

    • I’m humbled , thanks Therese that you’re willing to give my books a try:) You’ve listed a number of shows that we watched with our kids as well. I personally love the History Channel (great research!) and BBC series, and Mysteries at the Museum. I love to read for pleasure, but I’ve come to realize that many of those are research books. LOL Example; I just downloaded a book called “How to make Your Horse Happy”–do I have a horse? No.
      Is it my dream to work on a rescue farm for horses? Yes. There is so much to learn from books–fiction or non-fiction, right? Have a wonderful day and thank you for popping in!

  8. laineslite says:

    Forgot we can’t choose our blood related family but can still make the whole extended family of choice blend with the other and yes each family dynamic has it’s own soap opera feel at times. But bet you stick up for and protect every one blood, extended, chosen or friend.

    • This is great wisdom, Laineslite! And so well paints a picture of what I want to convey in the Kinnison series–I’ve fallen in love with some of my secondary characters almost as much as the main ones and have dabbled with the possibility of a spin-off for others in the small-town of End of the Line, Montana. Love that you shared this, thanks!

  9. Cheryl Lemon says:

    Good question. I believe Blue Bloods. No police in our family. But the Irish part is there. We are a close family but there are days, I wish I was an only child.

    • LOL I had to smile at your only child comment, Cheryl. My oldest-our only daughter–has three younger brothers, and really enjoys her one-on-one time with her dad and me. Classic I suppose in a lot of families! Thanks for stopping in , Irish threads are a tough bond to break, to be sure! 😉

  10. mjmgma says:

    All In The Family

    • I wondered if anyone would remember this show 🙂 As difficult as that show was to watch at times, the characters in and of themselves were very interesting! And in the end, though the road was often rocky, it seemed their love for each other always won out over all else.Thanks for stopping in to share!! 😉

  11. doveknoll says:

    Game of Thrones. Of course you can also pick just about any soap opera. My family is messed up and totally dysfunctional.

    • I’ve not seen GoT, but I’ve heard its intense. That said–many authors come from a variety of dysfunctional backgrounds.;) Trust me. 😉 Thank you for stopping by to share and hang in there!

  12. Rosemary K. says:

    Modern Family with all the love, drama and humor

    • So true, right Rosemary? 😉 I do enjoy watching this now and again and love all the diversity in the characters! I dunno though, that little Lily is pretty feisty! Can’t fathom her at 16!! There’s a great line from the movie Parenthood that speaks of the chaos of family life and yet really applies to many areas;

      Parenthood (1989)
      [Gil has been complaining about his complicated life; Grandma wanders into the room]
      Grandma: You know, when I was nineteen, Grandpa took me on a roller coaster.
      Gil: Oh?
      Grandma: Up, down, up, down. Oh, what a ride!
      Gil: What a great story.
      Grandma: I always wanted to go again. You know, it was just so interesting to me that a ride could make me so frightened, so scared, so sick, so excited, and so thrilled all together! Some didn’t like it. They went on the merry-go-round. That just goes around. Nothing. I like the roller coaster. You get more out of it.

      So true, right?
      Thank you for stopping by and sharing, Rosemary! 😉

  13. Shyanna says:

    I have no idea what show we would be. It’s currently just my son and I because my hubby is deployed. The closest I guess would be army wives but we’re a Marine family and I’m fairly antisocial so it’s not exactly accurate. I’ve only read one of your books so far and it was fantastic!

    • Wow, Shyanna, thank you & your family, first and foremost for your sacrifice, your courage and example. Please tell your dh thank you and that all he does is truly appreciated. In my opinion, you and your family exemplify what we writers try humbly to profile in our heroes & heroines.
      I am truly pleased that you’ve enjoyed some of my work (I’ll endeavor to get more Kinnison stories out there! LOL) and thank you for stopping by and sharing with us. God bless you and that great family of yours! You are the best and bravest that this country offers.

  14. Tammy. Sotka says:

    There really is no show for my husband’s Polish stubbornness, along with the rest of the family. It does kind of resemble Rules of engagement. The testosterone is spook overwhelming sometimes. And it’s just the 2 of us! Frustrating as hell. Our kids are all out of the house.

  15. Kristina H says:

    Modern Family would be a good representation, even though I’ve only seen it maybe once or twice. We’re the nice, semi-crazy family next door.

    • LOL, I want to live on your block;) What is that sign I’ve seen that best describes my family…”As far as anyone knows, we’re a normal family!” We all got a bit of crazy in us, I think. I know those Kinnison boys do! LOL Keeps things interesting 😉 Thank you for stopping by to share!

  16. carol L says:

    Probably Blue Bloods between the cops in our family and lots of soldiers.So you could throw in Army Wives to the mix. 🙂
    Carol L
    Lucky4750 (at) aol (dot) com

    • Love Blue Bloods family dinners! I was asked once what one piece of furniture would you want to save in a tornado (yeah, I’m a Midwest gal, happens a lot in these parts;) My dining room table would be it for me. There are so many memories tied to that singular piece of furniture! But I digress…So glad you stopped by Carol! I’ll be choosing a winner and contacting them today!
      Peace out!

  17. Ruth Lyons Mazur says:

    I’m a few days late, Amanda, but I’ll go ahead and leave a comment. I would probably compare my family to Parenthood, although I only have two sisters. I love how they gather around their parents for meals, parties and the relationships they have. As you know, I am reading Tides Of Autumn and enjoying it. I look forward to reading more of your books.

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